It’s coming up to that time of year again when people are making their New Year Resolutions after a period of over indulgence and inactivity. What are you going to make for your Resolution? Are you making any at all?
If you do make them, how long do they last? A day? Two? Maybe a week or a month? When they do finally fall by the wayside, do you care? If you don’t care about the Resolution when you ditch it, what was it that caused you to make it in the first place?
Many of us feel pressured into making Resolutions at the start of a New Year because traditionally we see it as a time for a fresh start, and a chance to turn over a new leaf. Many of our friends are doing it and it becomes a habitual social question. The more often it is asked the more we subconsciously think “Maybe I should have one too”. It takes a strong character to turn around and say that they don’t have a Resolution, or that they don’t believe in making them.
The one problem with New Year Resolutions is that it is rare that anyone actually plans to stick it out past February 1st. Somewhere between making the resolution and this time, it quietly gets filed away in the subconscious where you can forget that you even made it. No-one remembers what it was, and more importantly, NO-ONE asks. You are never expected to keep it, so you don’t.
However, New Year’s Resolutions can be effective if thought out properly, and the beauty of it is – they don’t have to start on January 1st – they can start RIGHT NOW. Or in a couple of days. Or even when you have had a chance to think about what it is that you actually want to achieve. Any promise that you make to yourself can be considered a Resolution. Personally I prefer the term Revolution, as you are potentially planning to turn your life around (depending upon what you are choosing to do).
A Revolution can be made voluntarily, at any time and in any place, and you do not have to answer to anyone – you don’t even have to tell anyone if you don’t feel like it. It is all down to you.
Revolutions can be small things that matter to you, or they can highlight an aim that you would like to achieve in a certain time period – in any area of your life. The important thing is that you think about what it is that you want to gain from this. The Revolution has a powerful quality in that it will help you look at your life and determine what exactly you want from it.
The following statements would not be classed as anything remotely like a Revolution:
- I will quit smoking.
- I want to lose weight.
- I won’t work so many hours.
- I will get fit.
- I will eat more healthily.
- I will help others more often.
- I will cut back on the amount I drink.
- I will improve my social life.
- I will make more time for my family.
- I will get that job I want.
Looking at these statements they look reasonable to the naked eye, after all, these are common Resolutions to make. But they are typical, and very nondescript. They are brief statements of intent that show no thought behind how or why these are being chosen. If you look at the sentences, they are just that – 1 line sentences. They tell you what the person is planning to give up, or cut back on, or make better. What it does not tell you is HOW they intend to do this – and this is where Resolutions fail before they start.
In order to be successful at anything that you are choosing to do within your life, it is important first of all to know WHY you are planning to do this. People who are successful at achieving their aims nearly always know why they are doing what they do, and where it is going to take them.
After you have thought about why you are planning to make a Revolution, looking at HOW you want to go about creating this change adds more weight to your plans. Looking at your options empowers you to feel more confident about yourself and your ability to achieve this.
For example, if someone were to make a Resolution to get fit, and leave it at that, then they would be more likely to fail, as on the surface this does not tell us why they are doing this, or how they are going to achieve this. WHY do they want to get fit – are they overweight? Do they feel that their life would be better if they were more active? HOW are they going to go about getting fitter – will they join a gym? Find a local walking group?
Knowing WHY you are doing something and HOW you intend to achieve it will help you when it comes to looking at the range of CHOICE you have in carrying your Revolution out. Being different is what makes us an individual – and what works well for one person may not be what you need in order to get where you need to go. For every problem there is often more than one solution and the trick is to look at them all, and see which one you think will be the best for you. Going back to the fitness Revolution – if you are looking to get fitter, what would work for you? Do you like the gym? If not, then there is no point wasting money on a membership fee that will tie you in for 12 months if you are not going to go. You can spend the money on something that is more suited to your goal.
People making the fitness Resolution that is just one sentence will usually just join a gym as it appeases their need to be seen to be doing something – but it doesn’t help in the long term if you hate going to the gym and only had a half-hearted intention of going anyway. It shows that the Resolution was not a serious intention.
The fitness Revolution that is more in-depth is more likely to succeed as by investigating the options, you stand more chance of finding one that you enjoy. If you don’t like the gym, you should think about why you don’t like it? Is it something that could change with a little more knowledge, or encouragement? For example, many people are put off going to a gym as it can look too ‘technical’ – but many gyms have Induction sessions as standard to help you orient yourselves around a gym environment, and you can ask as many questions as you like. A good gym will have friendly, knowledgeable staff that can help you feel at home when you are there. Feel as though gyms are just for toned, muscular people? Not at all. Go and investigate a few gyms at their peak trading times, and you should be able to see people of all shapes and sizes working out. And who is to say that the toned people weren’t overweight and flabby to begin with?
If the gym really isn’t for you, take time to think about what you do like doing. Many people start off their new exercise lifestyles by simply putting one foot in front of the other – and walking. It doesn’t need to be done in a specific place, and can be undertaken wherever and whenever you like. It doesn’t cost anything except maybe a pair of sturdy shoes or trainers, and it can get you from A to B as quickly or as slowly as you like. It can be done alone, or with a friend or two. The opportunities are endless.
Companionship is also an option. Want to make new friends along with your ‘new you’? The local papers and Yellow Pages are often full of different groups for all ages and activities, often at very little cost for you to undertake. These are often worth a try, and although groups can often feel like ‘cliques’, that is usually just an impression we put on them to avoid approaching them in the first place, and once you go, you find that impression is wrong – but you could have missed an ideal opportunity to meet new people.
When investigating any new options, time may have to be invested for a while in order to determine whether it is right for you, so patience is key. Don’t try something once and dismiss it as not being right for you – regardless of what your Revolution is. Working through your options will give you something extra to try should it turn out that one option really is not for you. It also allows you to continue working at achieving your Revolution. A Resolution at this point is likely to be ditched quickly, with no further thought. A Revolution can help you push to continue as you have put effort into making this become an on-going work in progress.
It should be pointed out that Revolutions work best if focussed on one at a time – that way there are no interruptions. The Revolution you are making should be one that is important to you. If it isn’t – it isn’t worth it.
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A happy, healthy and prosperous 2012 to you all.
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